Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

By Jan Littlejohn

– Start with a nice clean piece of paper .

– Write down the first 10 things that come to mind in response to this sentence: “I love (my partner’s name) because …” Set this piece of paper aside.

– Now – how about YOU?

– What do YOU bring to this union? What promises will you make?

– Write down 4-5 things you want to promise this very special person with whom you want to spend your life

– Do you promise to be there in bad times as well as good?·

– Do you promise to be faithful with your body as well as with your mind and heart?·

– Do you promise to support your partner even when he/she isn’t perfect?

– Do you promise to share all your resources? Some?

– What about if he/she gets sick?

– What about if you have a serious fight?

– You get the idea . . . what are you promising in this union?

– Think about your relationship.· what words will you use? Husband? Wife? Spouse? Partner for Life?.

– If you’re each creating your own unique vow, insert a sentence symbolizing the fact that you come together as unique individuals, without surrendering your individuality, :

– John, I accept you as my husband.
– I embrace you, Susan, as my partner for life.

Whatever works for you, a wedding vow should contain a phrase that indicates your commitment.

Read your vow out loud to a trusted someone other than your partner. Does it sound like you?

You have created one of the greatest gifts you will ever make.

Jan Littlejohn is a one of Australia’s most respected Celebrants for all occasions. Jan will share with you her expertise, knowledge, tips and resources that have been published around the world – visit